1. Party! We celebrated our five year old with family last night. He had a fantastic time and could not be more thrilled about all his presents. He is very loved! And I’m searching Craigslist and Target for toy storage options.
2. I have two plans for my birthday money: paint for the living room/family room/kitchen and a new purse. I had several purses picked out and I thought I was ready to take the leap and buy one with my birthday money. But it turns out that I’m cheap and I just can’t bring myself to spend a lot on a purse. By pure luck, I stopped in at Parisian and found a bag the fit my specifications 40% off. The sale went until 2pm and I walked into the store at about 1:45pm. I found the purse, picked a color really fast and walked out with this. The main thing I wanted was lots of pockets and a cross-body strap.
3. And since I did not spend what I thought I would on a purse for my birthday, I am looking forward to putting one of these colorful runners in the kitchen once it is painted. And maybe this wall clock too.
4. Spilled Milk recently did an episode on “Spouseless Eating” which I thought was so funny. I often wonder what D eats when I’m gone. I’m pretty sure it is mostly cereal. My eating habits when I’m on my own have a big range. They can either be really, really unhealthy (French onion dip and potato chips) or just something my husband would never eat (Chickpeas, spinach, red pepper flakes and a fried egg on top). Anyone else change what they eat when they are on their own?
5. Last weekend, I drove back and fourth to Cincinatti to visit this guy.
We bonded. He decided he loves his auntie.
6. On my ride to and from Cincinnati, I listened to the audio version of Adopted for Life (a free download for just a few more days). We have lots of copies of this book and have given it to many people but I had never read the whole thing. I was really encouraged and challenged by Dr. Moore. I identified with his struggle in parenting his adopted children.
Just as it is common to under-discipline children who’ve been adopted, it’s just as common for parents to try to over-discipline them…Here I am speaking of a lack of patience, an expectation that children should be well-behaved and well-adjusted at an accelerated pace.
This was the problem in my case. I was gentle and loving with the children, but I was constantly correcting misbehavior – including things that weren’t defiance or disobedience, just immaturity. My problem was simple, and as devilish, as pride. I didn’t want to be embarrassed. I didn’t want all those people who thought our adopting was foolish to be proven right.
I saw myself so much in this quote. I know when I am unable to predict the boys’ behavior I either avoid socialization with others all together (especially those who I perceive as skeptical of adoption) or become a hovering mom watching their every move. It would be better for all of us if I could get over myself a bit and trust that God knew what He was doing when He called us to adoption.
7. Lastly, I’ve already fallen behind on my bible verse memorization plan but I still think I can get this done by the end of February:
Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called songs of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake, for theirs is the kingdom of Heaven.
(Matthew 5:7-10, ESV)