A few people have asked us why adoption is so important to us. I think your exposure (or lack of exposure) with adoption effects the way you view it. We both have had positive experiences with adoption which I believe led us to being comfortable with it as a way to grow our family.
My family went to a small church up until I was in junior high. My parents became very good friends with the pastor and his wife and we spent a lot of time with them. They had one son (who was my brothers age) but wanted another child. I was young and did not understand all the complexities of this situation at the time but I do remember when I heard the news that they were adopting a little girl. It was a huge deal and everyone was very excited. Being around that family at that time in their life made a big impact on me.
When D and I were in high school, our youth pastor and his wife adopted a little boy. Being a little older at the time, it was awesome to watch him be celebrated and loved on by his family and the church. I was also able to learn a little bit more about the process and that experience truly developed my heart for adoption.
I think it is interesting that both these encounters with adoption were through spiritual leaders in our lives. This exposure, along with the understanding that adoption is a reflection of the gift we have been given, have led us to want to care for the fatherless.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding.
– Ephesians 1:3-8
Some people have not had any experience with adoption and others have only had bad experiences. The message that society sends is that adoption is a “last resort” when you cannot have biological children. It also does not help with adoption is negatively portrayed in culture. We know that there are risks but they pale in comparison to the abounding blessings and joy.