Saturday Seven

1. Party! We celebrated our five year old with family last night. He had a fantastic time and could not be more thrilled about all his presents. He is very loved! And I’m searching Craigslist and Target for toy storage options.

2. I have two plans for my birthday money: paint for the living room/family room/kitchen and a new purse. I had several purses picked out and I thought I was ready to take the leap and buy one with my birthday money. But it turns out that I’m cheap and I just can’t bring myself to spend a lot on a purse. By pure luck, I stopped in at Parisian and found a bag the fit my specifications 40% off. The sale went until 2pm and I walked into the store at about 1:45pm. I found the purse, picked a color really fast and walked out with this. The main thing I wanted was lots of pockets and a cross-body strap.

3. And since I did not spend what I thought I would on a purse for my birthday, I am looking forward to putting one of these colorful runners in the kitchen once it is painted. And maybe this wall clock too.

1. Cayden Runner 2. Green Wall Clock 3. Example of our new paint color – Coastal Fog 4. Kyle Green Runner

4. Spilled Milk recently did an episode on “Spouseless Eating” which I thought was so funny. I often wonder what D eats when I’m gone. I’m pretty sure it is mostly cereal. My eating habits when I’m on my own have a big range. They can either be really, really unhealthy (French onion dip and potato chips) or just something my husband would never eat (Chickpeas, spinach, red pepper flakes and a fried egg on top). Anyone else change what they eat when they are on their own?

5. Last weekend, I drove back and fourth to Cincinatti to visit this guy.

We bonded. He decided he loves his auntie.

6. On my ride to and from Cincinnati, I listened to the audio version of Adopted for Life (a free download for just a few more days). We have lots of copies of this book and have given it to many people but I had never read the whole thing. I was really encouraged and challenged by Dr. Moore. I identified with his struggle in parenting his adopted children.

Just as it is common to under-discipline children who’ve been adopted, it’s just as common for parents to try to over-discipline them…Here I am speaking of a lack of patience, an expectation that children should be well-behaved and well-adjusted at an accelerated pace.

This was the problem in my case. I was gentle and loving with the children, but I was constantly correcting misbehavior – including things that weren’t defiance or disobedience, just immaturity. My problem was simple, and as devilish, as pride. I didn’t want to be embarrassed. I didn’t want all those people who thought our adopting was foolish to be proven right.

I saw myself so much in this quote. I know when I am unable to predict the boys’ behavior I either avoid socialization with others all together (especially those who I perceive as skeptical of adoption) or become a hovering mom watching their every move. It would be better for all of us if I could get over myself a bit and trust that God knew what He was doing when He called us to adoption.

7. Lastly, I’ve already fallen behind on my bible verse memorization plan but I still think I can get this done by the end of February:

Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called songs of God.

Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake, for theirs is the kingdom of Heaven.

(Matthew 5:7-10, ESV)

Adopted For Life (chapter 1)

I have heard a lot of positive things being said about the book Adopted For Life by Dr. Russell Moore. So I thought I’d give it a read and post my thoughts about it chapter by chapter.

Dr. Russell Moore is dean of the School of Theology and senior vice president for academic administration at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is also the preaching pastor at Highview Baptist Church. More importantly, he is a husband and father of 4 sons, two of which were adopted from Russia. You can find his website here and his twitter feed here. He recently submitted a resolution on “Adoption and Orphan Care” to the SBC which was passed this week. It is extremely well written.

In the first chapter Dr. Moore makes it clear that this book is not a how-to for adoption. Instead, it provides a theological and practical understanding of adoption. By this, I mean that adoption is a theological biblical term about our relationship to God. Believers in Jesus Christ have gone from sinful and forsaken to not only forgiven, but adopted as full sons and daughters of God. Yet adoption is also a practical act on this earth that provides a way to care for those who have no family.

In the first chapter, Dr. Moore points out who he is writing this book to. The answer: all types of people. Those that are thinking about adoption, those that aren’t. Those that have adopted, those that are in the process. Those that are huge advocates for adoption, and those that haven’t given it one thought (except as an alternative during a pro-life discussion).

The book is for all types of people because at it’s core the book is about Jesus. The more we grow in our understanding of the gospel of Jesus Christ, the greater we will understand the need to care for orphans. The more we care for orphans and become “adoption-friendly”, the more we will be able to understand the gospel of Jesus Christ. They work hand in hand.

Jesus cares for the “least of these” and so should we. Therefore, we all should have some involvement in caring for orphans, because Jesus does.

The book looks to be really good. So stay tuned.

Favorite Quotes from Chapter 1:

– “The gospel of Jesus Christ means our families and churches ought to be at the forefront of the adoption of orphans close to home and around the world. As we become more attuned to the gospel, we’ll have more of a burden for orphans. As we become more adoption-friendly, we’ll be better able to understand the gospel.” (p. 18)

– “I want to ask what it would mean if our churches and families were known as the people who adopt babies – and toddlers, and children, and teenagers. What if we as Christians were known, once again, as the people who take in orphans and make of them beloved sons and daughters?” (p. 20)

– “All of us have a stake in the adoption issue, because Jesus does.” (p. 20)

– On prior understanding of adoption “I wasn’t evil – or, at least, I wasn’t any more evil on this score than any other redeemed sinner – but I was as theologically and spiritually vacuous as the television ‘prosperity gospel’ preachers I made fun of with my theologically sophisticated friends.” (p. 22)