A Pleasant Surprise

I opened up Parents Magazine this afternoon to find a lovely article on three families from California who have fostered and/or adopted. One of the families inspired the other two when they shared their story with them through church. This quote just made me smile (and cry a little):

Our philosophy has always been that if a child is not returned to her parents or relatives or moved elsewhere by the court, then our home would be their final stop, their ‘forever home.’ (Jaci Hasemeyer)

There is just so little time to blog now and when I do have time, I can barely figure out what to say. Here is a bit of what we have been dealing with:

  • T has mild reflux AKA major spit-up. We think it has been resolved with a change of formula and some medication.
  • M still does not like to go to sleep. Once she is asleep, she is fine. Advice and prayers welcomed.
  • The next court date is at the end of April. We won’t know anything new until then.

I am really hoping we can find time to podcast this week.

9 thoughts on “A Pleasant Surprise

  1. Hi Friend!
    Hang in there with the spit-up. Ellary was the same way, and we actually got used to it, so that it was normal and didn’t bother us much anymore. And it was completely gone by 7 months. Probably seems like forever to you, but I look back on that now and can hardly remember what it was like. It’s amazing what you can get used to. No advice on the 2-year-old from me!

    Love you guys.

  2. Get a routine down and give it some time. With Eli we have bath time (which is a relaxing time), then we put on his braces (he has night splints he has to wear because of his toe walking and balance issues), then I read to him for a few minutes from the Bible. He doesn’t understand much, but it’s never too early! Then we sit on a rocking chair and talk about the day while soft lullabyes play in the background. When he’s ready, I put him in bed and he plays with the two toys I let him have in bed and eventually falls asleep. Some kids need more time to unwind than others. As long as he’s quiet, I’m happy! This is what we do, and after you get to know M more, you’ll find what works for M. And then stick with it. Routine is very comforting. Also, try singing lightly to M, that also works wonders to calm most kids down. I also have to tell you I’m a stay at home mom and Eli is our only child.

    • Thanks, Natalie! We have been working on getting a routine down. Occasionally, it is interrupted by T. We have been reading to M from the Rhyme Bible at night. With S (who was 5) we read from The Jesus Storybook Bible (which I loved!)

  3. I echo the routine comment, but stress that you want it to be simple and short because whatever it is will be the routine for as long as you are putting that kid to bed. Once established, they cannot be changed without a lot of work! Just like with horses, you can put a kid to bed, but you can’t make him sleep…

      • We have gone through that. A routine definitely helps, but the only thing we’ve found to actually end it (eventually) is letting them cry. When we first started letting them cry, we checked on them every few minutes to start out so they know we’re still there and gradually increased the time. Just open the door, say, “I’m still here, go to sleep” but don’t touch them (that’s what I’ve read anyway) so it’s not fun for them. Two is a tough age (at least for us–our recent battles with Eli are over eating meals. Lots of screaming).
        Does she have a special stuffed animal or anything like that? That, and tucking them in tightly so that they feel snuggled, helps our kids when they’re wanting us in with them. We’ll pray for you guys and hang in there!

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